Comments on: life’s a riddle, here’s a clue

By: Thomas Foolery

Thomas Foolery — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 22:46:49 +0000

Oh man, I’m glad my ex doesn’t post comments on my blog. Dude you burned ‘er.

Ok I should keep my beak out of this.

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 17:25:36 +0000

ouch – you’re right of course. that was an insensitive, cavalier, throw-away phrase. it wasn’t rotten… it just wasn’t right.

By: G.

G. — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 17:16:34 +0000

I object to the characterization of our marriage as “rotten”. It wasn’t perfect, but it was not “rotten”. It makes us both seem like bad spouses and we weren’t, we just weren’t the right spouses.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 06:16:15 +0000

“Either this feeling is normal, or it’s normal among South London, American expatriate bloggers.”

maybe it’s something in the water

By: Vol Abroad

Vol Abroad — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 20:58:05 +0000

There’s always carelessness!

I never really understood that burning desire to have kids – and now that I have a baby, I still don’t – not really. I don’t worry about it. Either this feeling is normal, or it’s normal among South London, American expatriate bloggers.

And you know, now that we have a kid – do you think that stops questions? Nah, it’s all about “will you have another one?” You can’t win.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 12:19:14 +0000

“it’s interesting to think about this imbalance and what it will mean for the future.

good news for us, since they’ll probably all rebel during their teenage years see? nature has a way of balancing everything out!

By: Anglofille

Anglofille — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 12:08:55 +0000

People are always so worried about those who do not want children, as if there’s a shortage of people in this world. I wish those people who say “maybe you’ll change your mind” would ask themselves why *they* have children or want them. They’d probably have no good answer.

From a political perspective, I think it’s problematic that conservative/religious women are much more likely to reproduce than liberal/feminist women. Because of my upbringing, I know plenty of conservative women my age who have 4 or 5 kids. *None* of my feminist women friends have children and many of them are nearing or are at the end of their child-bearing years.

I’m not saying that women should reproduce for political reasons (though I’ve read a few feminist writers who have had children partly for this reason and I think about it myself), but it’s interesting to think about this imbalance and what it will mean for the future.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 11:31:09 +0000

“Well, if it makes you feel any better, in about 10 years people will stop saying that to you, when you stop looking so young and fertile.”

gee, thanks that makes me feel soooo much better!

By: Thomas Foolery

Thomas Foolery — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 11:20:18 +0000

Well, if it makes you feel any better, in about 10 years people will stop saying that to you, when you stop looking so young and fertile.

Good post though. Me too. I don’t have anything against children, or the people who make them. I just like my life, and I have a few plans, and kiddies don’t appear anywhere in the frame.

By: amity

amity — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 06:58:01 +0000

ugh. i can’t believe people still say ‘you might change your mind’ to you, or anyone who doesn’t have children. it’s so patronising and dismissive.

for what it’s worth though, not all parents had a burning desire to become one either — life just worked out that way. tequila can be a persuasive thing…