Comments on: nothing you could put your finger on

By: A Free Man

A Free Man — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 23:10:11 +0000

This is fantastic, Jen. Brought me back to that age and brought back the bullys. Kids can be so damn evil. It’s one of the things that worries me about my own kids. What the hell do you do as a parent when you find out that someone is torturing your kid. I love your Mom’s answer, it’s the best I’ve ever heard.

I see a lot of the kids that I hated and, like you, still can’t forgive on Facebook. Some of them try to friend me and I just don’t get it – they spent our teen years taunting, punching, tripping, mocking and now they want to be my ‘friend’? Seriously?

By: Strawberry

Strawberry — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:38:15 +0000

It’s awful when this happens, when you find that someone you thought was a friend suddenly dislikes you, doesn’t want to know you. If it makes you feel any better, you can be sure that something similar to this probably eventually happened to her too.

We are all cruel to one another, we are all dismissive of someone else’s feelings and friendship at some point — easily spotted when it happens to us, but so difficult to recognise in ourselves. And though we like to think it’s a school-aged thing, I think it happens just as much in adulthood, but unlike in school, as adults we have the freedom to choose the circles we move in.

By: daddio

daddio — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:01:06 +0000

stunned to read this. i never knew and i would have tried to protect you. i am sorry you endured this. everyone who delibertly tries to hurt someone are just badly hurt themselves, but not a reason to be allowed t to continue. i love you…just what do you mean a choppy haircut…ok, so it was choppy (sorry!)

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 17:46:21 +0000

thanks both. it’s amazing how it’s just below the surface.

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 04:20:39 +0000

beautifully written, Jen – I’m so sorry you endured that. I remember so well the cruelty of the middle school years. I didn’t endure anything quite to the level that you described, but being shunned by cliques, the cruel, offhanded remarks in my direction, the painful awkwardness – - I remember it all too well. It makes me so sad for that girl that I was then, not understanding who I was yet, and thinking my worth was based on what these mean girls thought of me. So I felt your pain to my bones reading what you wrote – - the pain during adolescence is quite acute and never fully leaves. Amazing.

By: k

Sun, 17 Jan 2010 23:28:28 +0000

this post made me well up in tears………….