Comments on: whereupon i alienate 99% of mothers

By: blues

blues — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 15:43:37 +0000

Maybe it was always so glorified, it’s just that we are more bombarded by media than we were before.

Maybe it’s out age that makes us notice it more and not being mom’s ourselves that call our attention to it.

In my case it’s infertility. But it doesn’t matter if it’s infertility or if it’s by choice. You’re still being told you are incomplete.

By: dianaspy

dianaspy — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 07:15:00 +0000

This is EXACTLY why I always park in the spaces reserved for expectant mothers at the mall. And why I sometimes contemplate buying a baby carriage to push around as a means to bulldoze anyone in my path. good times.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 11:47:36 +0000

@amity – what, me, use hyperbole??! never!

By: Amity

Amity — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 21:33:00 +0000

99%? I think it’s more like 80-90%(depending on socioeconomic status). Sorry, just a technical aside.

There’s so much I agree with here but I was just on my way to bed so I’ll have to come back to comment in more depth tomorrow.

By: Julie B

Julie B — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 20:03:57 +0000

A-f*cking-men!

I also think that this cult of motherhood atmosphere makes women who choose NOT to have children question themselves and also receive unwelcomed scorn or pity from others. Just because I choose not to be a mother doesn’t mean I’m less valuable or special, just like fathers are no less valuable or special than mothers. (end rant)

My sister once said to me that being a parent is both a selfISH act as a selfLESS one in her experience (mother of 3). It’s a shame many people refuse to admit the former and hype up the latter, as it furthers a culture of guilt trips and perfectionist traps for both mothers and fathers alike.